Time for this woman to ‘Man up’

Posted in: Uncategorized on Tuesday, February 12th, 2013

Man up as defined by the Urban Dictionary is the process of strapping on a pair, of growing some balls, and putting a stop being such a complete and utter wuss.

Eloquent, accurate and most of all relevant.

The time has come for me to man up, to strap on a pair and stop being a complete and utter wuss.  I’m referring to the fact that over the coming weeks I’ll have to be dealing with boating contractors, most likely on my own while Ben is at work.

The boating industry, and surely i’m not the only woman who has noticed this, is dominated by Men. Dominated usually by gruff and intimidating men. Men who make me acutely aware of how little I know about boats and sea-faring things in general.

If given a choice I’m an email or text kind of girl, online enquiries and the like.  Phone calls and talking face to face with people I don’t know, let alone male contractors make me more than a little nervous.  Not to mention the fact that my more than adequate vocabulary deserts me, leaving me with ums and ahs and unable to communicate what I want in a coherent, intelligent fashion. Sometimes even with Ben it comes down to drawing pictures to get my point across.

Time to man up and be brave

Which on reflection is silly considering i’m a grown woman of 30 years.

It may be silly, but it doesn’t change the fact that it’s how I feel…and I need to get over it if we’re going to get anything done to Tygress.  Ben’s out there earning the money, bringing in the bacon so to speak which means he’s not here to do the talking. He’s not here to be the point of contact.  He’s not here to be my comfort zone.

So not only should I be cooking him bacon (what man doesn’t love bacon?…Mmmm bacon), I need to be brave, man up, strap on a pair or whatever you want to call it and start getting things done.

Last week I finally called The Hatch Man after my emails went unanswered and made an appointment for him to come out and inspect our windows and hatches, some of which need replacing and resealing.  Thankfully Ben was home for that meeting.  Although we’re not so thankful for the shock and subsequent disillusion we got when opening his quote a few days later.

Today in what were’ hoping will be a cheaper endeavour, I’m meeting with the marine trimmer to start the process of getting a quote for the replacement of our spray dodger and cockpit canvas.

My plan? Put on my best ‘assertive, I-know-what-i’m-talking-about’ hat, smile nicely but not too ditzily, tell him straight out what our budget is and then do my best to communicate what bang we want for our buck.

I’ll let you know how it goes!

Have you ever had to man up, be bold, be brave, be fearless? When have you had to push outside of your comfort zone?



  1. Melissa White says:

    Oh poor you! On the other hand, you will be learning this skill early. You are woman! Hear you roar! I’m sure you will go into this with lists of questions (in consultation with Ben) and if it gets really bad, there is no shame in saying ‘I’ll get back to you after Ben and I have discussed it.’. Yes, it’s true the industry is run by men, but some of them are pretty nice, especially if it means getting business. Good luck!

  2. Tammy says:

    It has been my experience in dealing with rough worker types, that when the women does the talking, they find it similar to dealing with their own wives or mothers and they become putty in your hands. Put on an authoritative tone and roll with it. Tell them what you want using small words and you should be fine.

  3. Anne @GtSlamseysFarm says:

    My sister’s a farmer and when she was selling a bit of machinery the (male) buyer walked away because he said he couldn’t deal with a woman as apparently, he didn’t want to haggle with her. I suspect farming is a bit like the boating industry.
    Good luck.

  4. Patti says:

    Hi Sarah ~
    You have been nominated for a super sweet blogging award! Have fun!

  5. Sarah says:

    Thanks all for your comments and encouragement. As usual I was getting worried over nothing, the whole process took no longer than 10 minutes, they guy was friendly and informative and I didn’t get tongue tied once. The only mistake I made was getting down onto the dock without my shoes so I spent the time trying not to obviously hop from one foot to the other as the concrete burnt my little tootsies. The quote came a few days later, 4 1/2 boat bucks! Needless to say we’ll be shopping around to get a better price or possibly even do it ourselves.

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